My Mother and I

Support at every age.

Words and music by Sarah Pirtle, © 2002, Discovery Center Music BMI

Lyrics

1. Daughter:  Don’t let that loud noise get me.

Mother:         I hear you calling.

Daughter:      I wanna come in from the storm.

Mother:         I will help you.

Daughter:      Something I heard upset me.

Mother:         I am with you .

Daughter:      I need you now to keep me warm.

Mother:         And I will, and I will, and I will.

 

Chorus:

My mother and I, she hears my cry.

She shelters me. She comes running.

She carried me here. She holds me near.

And for always, I hear my mother’s song.

 

2. Daughter:   Some kids at school were lying, they lied about me.

I couldn’t think of a thing to do.

Mother:        I will help you.

Daughter:     I turned around and ran away.

Mother:        I am with you.

Daughter:    Gotta find my voice and come on through.

Mother:       Yes, you will, yes, you will, yes, you will.

 

3. Daughter: I’m moving on my own now.

Mother:        And I trust you.

Daughter:     I’ve many dreams of what I’ll do.

Mother:        I’ll still listen.

Daughter:     When doubts and fears upset me.

Mother:         I am with you.

Daughter:      I believe in me and I’ll come through. Yes, I will, yes, I will, yes, I will.

 

Last chorus: 

My mother and I, she hears my cry.

She shelters me as I go running.

I carry her here. Her heart is near,

and for always, I hear my mother’s song.

Through the night and through the day,

I hear my mother’s song.

Production: Recorded on “Heart of the World,” produced by A Gentle Wind, www.gentlewind.com. Used by permission. Engineered, mixed and mastered by Donald Person. Jack Hume - Weisenborn.
Guitar - Bobbie Van Detta. Three different girls sing on the verses to reflect the changing age of the narrator in the song. Verse One: Hannah Rosen, Verse Two: Allison Schrade Kiphuth, Verse Three: Leah Walsh.

The Story of the Song

Some of the best advice I received as a parent was that it’s a false and unfair cultural prediction that a rift must occur between parents and children when they reach teenage years. The relationship changes, but the closeness can remain in the years to come in your life. I wanted that message to come across.

I wrote this song after co-leading a workshop for mothers and daughters at Woolman Hill Conference Center. Mavis Gruver, who with her family started “New Moon Magazine,” and I led activities that helped participants ask questions and talk to each other, with separate baskets for questions from adults and questions from children. Girls asked about anger, mending broken friendships, and handling fears.

One girl reminisced about a time when she was younger and ran to her mother, saying, “Don’t let that loud noise get me.” That sparked the first verse. I created the chorus to reflect the warm connection I’d observed between the mothers and daughters there.

A note: Reconstruct the song for all genders and all kinds of families
To reflect the many ways families are constructed – adoptive, foster families, blended families, families of choice, two Moms, two Dads, families where grandparents raise their grandchildren -- you can revise the lyrics with new words. You can revise pronouns, too.

Discussion questions: How do you want your parent to support you at the age you are now?
For adults who had parents that weren’t able to be supportive in their childhood, you can reframe the question --
talk about a person who you were able to turn to for support.

Resource Book: The Mother-Daughter Project by SueEllen Hamkins and Renee Schultz. Isolina Leiva-Bowes who authored the song “Believe,” and Erin Berard, colleague at Journey Camp, were both part of this ten year project in the Northampton, MA area.